The life of the couple Abraham and Sarai draws our attention by the way they talked with each other (Genesis 12: 10-20). Before entering Egypt, Abraham tells his wife Sara: "Say thou art my sister ..." and so the conversation continued. Imagine the father of faith saying that, without being afraid to tear his heart and express with sincerity what he was feeling for his wife. What did he want to say to his wife? That he preferred to be betrayed rather than be killed!

What does the lack of communication imply? One of the big problems between couples, and that is even being lost, is the lack of communication or trivial communication that in turn discloses a frivolous marriage.

We live in a society in which a large part of women are not like Sarai, the husband cannot open his heart to her. Men who are not like Abraham, who don’t have the courage to say what they feel, and which are their dreams, fears, frustrations and longings. If I cannot talk to my wife or husband, to whom will I talk to?

“There is a sacred circle around every family which should be preserved. No other one has any right in that sacred circle. The husband and wife should be all to each other. The wife should have no secrets to keep from her husband, and let others know, and the husband should have no secrets to keep from his wife to relate to others. The heart of his wife should be the grave for the faults of the husband, and the heart of the husband the grave for his wife’s faults. Never should either party indulge in a joke at the expense of the other’s feelings. Never should either the husband or wife in sport or in any other manner complain of each other to others, for in frequently indulging in this foolish, and what may seem perfectly harmless, joking, it will end in trial with each other and perhaps estrangement. I have been shown that there should be a sacred shield around every family.” Manuscript 1, 1855

Consider very well what you say and to whom. Do not allow others to get close to your marriage, unless they are qualified and trustworthy. Do you know your wife's dream? Have you been interested in asking her if she thought about realizing her dreams any time?

By Adalício Fontes - Portugal