There is intimacy in the family; an abstract area that it keeps for itself, which we might well call an area of secret. It contains episodes, feelings, failures, memories, and a whole bundle of experiences and family history.
The family must be intimate of itself and preserve its privacy. Each family keeps secrets which are not interests of third parties, which should not be published, because "A talebearer revealeth secrets." Proverbs 11:13. Dignity of people can only be secured when they keep their heart or hearts, which only the individual or the family are interested in.
Many families break up because they lose their privacy, either because of immaturity or the intrusion of third parties, which violate individual freedom and respect. I must also emphasize that intimacy requires the free consent of the person to take part in it without it being destroyed. Therefore, knowing or spreading the intimacy of a person against their will implies his or her destruction.
There must be a strong intimacy between parents and children based on love and trust. It often happens that when that trust is lacking, children transfer their intimacy to other people, thus creating a dangerous gap in the family relationship. Parents should dialog with their children, pray with them applying the lessons of the word of God in each situation, and above all, seeking divine guidance.
Family intimacy must be strengthened every day. Parents and children must cultivate it so that this bond becomes a protective wall against the constant siege of external forces that seek to break up the family. The unity of the family is connected with intimacy. We can then establish the following equation: Greater intimacy, more unity; greater unity, more intimacy. "Can two walk together, except they be agreed?" Amos 3:3. Certainly, intimacy requires unity, because it must be entrusted to someone who can preserve it so that it becomes profitable.
Children must be used to trust in their parents, who must keep them from companies whichare a threat to their privacy and intimacy. The inspired counsel warns:“In forming friendship, great caution should be exercised lest an intimacy be contracted with one whose example it would not be safe to imitate; for the effect of such an intimacy is to lead away from God, from devotion, and the love of the truth. It is positively dangerous for you to be intimate with friends who have not a religious experience.” Testimonies for the Church, vol. 3, p. 42.
By Júlio Sandoya - Brasil